Valentine: Everlasting Experience
What are the elements for an everlasting experience
on Valentine's Day?
For once I had an almost 5 years' relationship.
I hope you do not suffer the same mental deficiency as I am. I tried
to recall how did i spent the 4 Valentine's days but I couldn't!
I simply can't remember any thing that has taken place except for
a pizza at Lido and 3 color roses. Isn't it pathetic? Life is more
beautiful if we can hold back some sweet memory to cherish upon...
How to create a beautiful and everlasting memory
on Valentine's Day?
Most people would have 70 Valentine's days per life.
Take away 10 years of childhood, 10 years of going dateless and
10 years of old age, so we are left with 40 Valentine's days. Considering
10 days fall before marriage and 30 days fall after marriagec 10
days of uncertainty and 30 days of certainty. Just one comment.
It is not intuitive for we guys can maintain the same motivation
level throughout... Maybe ladies could give us good advice :)
Is it possible for feeling that was eroded by time
can be recovered?
I ponder for quite some times and I came to a rather
conclusive finding. Unlike computer, our
memory records feelings, not incidents. And it is in
those feelings that we find other details. Most feelings are too
complex to interpret by words accurately. Illustrations: For the
pizza at Lido, she told me I didn't dress "appropriately";
for the 3 color roses that brought from Malaysia early morning ,i
fought very hard to protect them from being squeeze in the bus 170.
These are two "pictures" of feelings; I hardly recalled
anything before and after the "pictures" was "photographed".
I could have totally forgetten about these them together with the
rest, but i found them the feelings... feelings stays longer and
lectures note gone fastest!
Do you know why computer is preferred for work?
Because it doesn't feel!
For most jobs, feelings destroy work efficiency.
We can't be effective if we are emotional. That's why feelings have
no market value as far as employers are concerned. We think of our
work but we don't feel, the more we feel, the more we get ourselves
depressed over the routine. Hence our
job deprived us of our feelings until a stage whereby our capacity
to feel get so blunted that we can't feel anything except feeling
tired. Does this argument sufficient a reason to explain
why young people are more romantic?
Feelings can be artificially injected, but only
the spontaneous ones will last.
Lost feelings can sometimes be consolidated via
3 things: diary, photograph and recollection with parties involved.
Staring at our photos slightly longer; most probably they are going
to trigger off some lost and found mechanism in our brain to connect
us back to the unforgotten encounters, even more so if the photos
are arranged sequentially. However, in city like Singapore, people
are too tight up with never ending work schedule that we seldom
have time to really live the way we want to live. We
only feel "non-lastingly", to a large extent, towards
the fictitious characters appear in TV programs but we are immured
to the life experience we have in the real world.
No guaranteed that it works, but at least there
is no regret for your attempt.
Fresh roses, glistering platinum and candle-light
dinner are merely side dishes. To cook the main course, 2 main ingredients
that you can't do without are creativity
and personal touch. Other common ingredients may include
research and planning. And
you need to cook all of that in correct proportion using the fire
of time and effort skilfully. Whether it is going to be delicious
or not, it does not matter the most. And your motivation level (enzyme,
in biological term) is the only tool that you need to harvest all
ingredients that you need! I hope i answered the first question
Valentine's Day =)